Most of times, I've taken for granted the existence of my older sister because I've been around her since i have was created. She was ever present, 24/7, and much more often these days, she annoyed me or the other way around.
As we get older and now live apart from one another, I've remarked that she was actually teaching me so many life lessons when i watched her make the decisions she made in her lifetime. So, here are 5 things that she taught me much better than anyone else might have:
1. Create please anyone and merely do why is you happy
The the very first thing she educated me in was about how important our passion is. Her decision of taking the major that she did not really like at university made her understand that following your passion is the key to happiness. She forced me to disregard other's opinion regarding my future plans and also to pursue my very own passion as well as my interests. She was right; I've never regretted the decisions which i took regarding my entire life, particularly with my major.
2. Love yourself first to be able to love others
More often these days, we are scared of falling in love because we've not loved ourselves completely. My sister always jogs my memory that individuals have to 'finish using their own issues' first before they love others. To be able to love, we have to be quite happy with ourselves, which means, we accept the way you are; we accept our flaws, insecurities, strengths in addition to our weaknesses. When we can't love ourselves, who'll?
3. Communication is paramount to fixing conflicts
Most of the times, when I argue with my sister, she always gives me the 'silent treatment' which makes everything worse than ever before. From that have, I've found that communication is paramount to understanding some different perspectives. I discover it's okay to state what we feel and what we feel because that is what can make other people understand. Silence will only lead us to misunderstandings and create more disagreements in the future.
4. Individuals will disappoint you, but be kind anyway
Sometimes, we give everything to the people in our surroundings, yet they keep disappointing us. My sister always jogs my memory that kindness is all about what we should share with others and it is not about what we obtain in return. I understand this the first is so cliché and easier said than can be done, but I think she's right. If we always consider what we should can get in exchange after we give something to others, it isn't kindness, and it's a company deal.
5. Every day life is nothing like Disney movies
I still keep in mind that my childhood memories mostly involved watching Disney movies and my sister's favorite was Mulan. But because time goes by, and now both of us have been in our 20s, we agree that no one is a princess who definitely are saved with a prince. Every day life is hard and also the most accurate Disney character is Peter Pan who does not want to grow up. The two of us know that every day life is by pointing out struggles and no one will save us but ourselves.
Despite the truth that my older sister can be stubborn and bossy, I understand that they wants all the best for me; she does not want her sister to repeat exactly the same mistakes that she did in her life. At the end of the day,
“Sisters work as safety nets inside a chaotic world, by simply being there for every other.” – Carol Saline