Adulting is difficult. We spend our high school and college careers dreaming about your day that we become independent, move into meaningful careers and truly start living. Then the reality takes over and we understand that we had more disposable income as a student and that independent life really means doing everything for yourself. Adulting is difficult, so much harder than we expect it to be, and the worst part is, we continually put increasingly more pressure on ourselves to do it better. That's where we're going wrong, we're overthinking it and which makes it more difficult of computer needs to be. Let's all take the time to consider a few of the ways we're overthinking adulthood and causing ourselves unnecessary stress:
Trying to attain all of our goals at once.
Life goals, career goals, relationship goals – we try to do it all. We graduate and we suddenly want everything to fall into place instantaneously. That which you do is take it a measure at a time. For instance, working super a hardship on a promotion at the office, but letting your dating life slip for a few weeks. Just prioritize what matters most at this time, and make certain to regain another things when life receives a little less hectic afterwards.
Focusing on which you haven't done rather than that which you have.
It's very easy to disregard the progress that you are making and concentrate around the stuff you haven't yet achieved. We're an ambitious generation who are always looking forward, however it never hurts once in awhile to look back and celebrate the achievements you earn, small or big. You may find that you have a lot more to become proud of that you simply have credit for.
Social media causes it to be almost too simple to compare ourselves to other people.
What you have to remember is that people post their absolute highs on social networking – nobody (or at best no one we really want to be friends with) posts about their problems. Watching our friends’ lives pass us by via cellphone screens every single day draws way too much attention to the achievements of those around us, that make us feel inadequate. Stop comparing you to ultimately others (especially to their Facebook feeds) and obtain some perspective.
Overthinking the little things.
I'm all too guilty of this. I give myself a hard time for forgetting to purchase cereal three days consecutively or grabbing a microwave meal for dinner instead of taking time to prepare. This stuff genuinely don't matter though – I am talking about so long as I have toast, I will be okay! Sometimes every day life is hectic and chaotic and you simply do not have time to sweat the details- so long as you are eating, showering, and turning up in the office around the reg, you're doing okay, you shouldn't be way too hard on yourself.
Image obsessions and all sorts of that is wrong with 'idealist' media.
From a young age, a “perfectionist” image is thrust into our retinas via magazines, tv shows, movies and celebrity culture. Furthermore we compare ourselves to the friends, but we compare ourselves to people we've never met. We actively come up with our lives a lot more like those of the hottest celebs and sculpt our bodies and wardrobes to mirror theirs as well. UMM WHY?! We seriously need to stop this madness and quit defining ourselves by unattainable, and, frankly, unnecessary standards!
Doing our opinion we ought to rather than what we should want to.
We consider our decisions in too many paradigms and all sorts of all too often opt for the route that we think we should, as opposed to the one we want to. In the small things all the way to the larger decisions, we worry too much by what others will think of our choices and just what may ultimately be perfect for our careers/relationships/health. What we should do is paying more attention to what we should want and going with this instincts.
We don't live in as soon as.
We spend a lot of our lives wondering, worrying over and planning the future, and not enough time experiencing the right now. We need to save money minutes soaking up what we have and appreciating the great stuff that surround us and less time imagining how our way of life might be, idealizing and conditioning our happiness on things that aren't as important as we imagine them to be.
Figuring out how you can adult is difficult, so let's come up with it simply a little bit easier to live in by providing up these silly traits and giving ourselves a break once in awhile. Ambition is great, dreams are integral to success, but ramen noodles and Netflix binges are acceptable too. Don't overthink it, just live it and enjoy the journey.