Not giving a fuck is among the greatest skills in everyday life you can learn.
There are many things in life that we do have to provide a fuck about, like: our happiness, the friends who matter, getting into good shape, and working on our goals and dreams. However, there's also an overwhelming quantity of shit that we spend hours, days, even months, obsessing that honestly doesn't actually matter. This isn't great for our time, our life, or our mental health.
How much time do we waste doing things that are meaningless to all of us? And how much of our time will we spend caring by what people think of us?
Over recent years months, I have been told negative things like these:
“Women with muscles, eww gross”
“You seem like a man”
“You curse an excessive amount of, that's not lady like”
The old me might have curled in a ball and let those things get to my head, but now I've be a master at “The art of not giving a fuck”.
I get a lot of negative comments like these and you know what that's okay. Not just are these people wrong, they are part of the problem of the society, constantly judging and criticizing others. I had been so worried about the other people considered to the detriment of what I wanted and i believe that we as people just put a significant amount of stock in other people’s opinions.
But no matter what you need to do, you've got no treatments for what other people ultimately consider you. However, you possess the control how you react to it.
By giving a fuck on which others think, you will live life enslaved which is completely self-destructive. These thoughts will fill up your face and distance you from the life span that's still unfolding in front of you. They are not leading to any important decisions or insights, they are really taking over your current moment, and shortening your life.
The world is constantly suggesting that all you aren't is what makes you happy. We're so obsessed with social media, having the latest fashion items, and just what people we hardly know consider us, these things are always just gnawing away at us. It often results in stress. And stress accumulates and then this leads to mental health issues. Giving a fuck about everything the planet wants you to have makes you more miserable by what you aren't or don't have.
If you're too busy giving a fuck about so many things around you, you've practically stopped living. The greater you desperately desire to be like another person, the greater unworthy you are feeling. The greater you desperately want to be happier, the lonelier you become, the greater you try to reside to expectations of others, the greater miserable you are feeling.
When I stopped giving a fuck about nonsense and things I couldn't control, I started giving a fuck about things that matter. I realized that I convey more time to dedicate it towards the things and people within my life that I do care about.
Happiness and living life towards the fullest originate from understanding what of looking after about -and most significantly, what not to care about.
When you stop giving a damn by what people think, your self-confidence will increase. You'll begin to have confidence in yourself and what you are able to provide the world, without letting outside influences stop you or sway your decisions.
Not giving a shit seems like apathy, but it's not.
Not giving a damn doesn't make you an “asshole”.
Not giving a “fudge” is not being selfish nor being a mean person, but actually, you're just looking out for you personally; which we’ve been told like a society is selfish and that selfishness is really a terrible thing.
Not giving a fuck actually puts you inside a healthier frame of mind and makes you a better person to be with. It'll free you enormously in terms of general feeling of calm which makes you a better person, it can make a more pleasant friend, it can make you a more attentive parent, also it enables you to a more genial co-worker.
Not giving a fuck it's just a refusal to waste your energy and time on mental poison.
The key to the great life you really need is giving a damn about what's important to your growth, career and total well-being.